🙆Leaning into It 🙆
Every night this month, I’ve spent at least an hour laying in the bed of a two-year-old helping get him to sleep. The kids share a bedroom, and any night I’m not there, Isaac screams and repeats my name for over an hour. When his brother hits the top bunk, the screaming of my name doesn’t play. When I arrive, he hits, kicks, and yells character names in my face like “Mario,” “Sonic,” and “McQueen” until he passes out.
I’m not trying to enter a long-term drama triangle as a rescuer, but I do need both kids to fall asleep. The first couple of nights, I laid there trying to will him to sleep. Then I leaned into the moment. Yes, I prefer reading, writing, or juggling before I go to bed, but I have a lifetime to do that. I have days or maybe weeks left of this dynamic. How often do we recognize the “last-time” moments at the moment that they are “last-time” moments?
Given this mindset, the bottom bunk starts to feel like home.
Improv offers us the concept of Yes and. What that means is that no matter what happens, we acknowledge it and build off of it. When we lean into it, we say Yes and get ready for what happens next. We make the best of whatever just happened and keep going.
Plus, it all ends quickly. If we forget to enjoy the moments, then what is the point? If we fail to see the silver linings, then what is the point? The things that we have to do are done best when we lean in. They work best when we re-frame it to try to make it serve us and those around us.